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TO PERM or TO BE NATURAL

2010-06-05T06:17:00.000-07:00

When my hair, weave or natural, is not right fly me to the moon cuz nothing in my world is right. So here's my question? To perm or be natural......

Is a perm bad for black hair? Check out what I found out.

A perm or relaxer is very damaging to the hair.

There are two types of relaxers. They are SODIUM HYDROXIDE (lye-based) and GUANIDINE HYDROXIDE (no-lye). Although the no-lye products are thought to be less damaging, both types are harmful to the hair because in order to straighten it, they must first strip it of its natural moisture and then break down the structure of the hair.

Hair Damage

Sodium hydroxide and guanidine hydroxide both have a very high pH factor, meaning they are highly alkaline products. When applied to the hair, they immediately strip it of all moisture, because any retention of moisture would reduce the effectiveness of the straightener. This is why a deep-conditioning treatment is always applied to the hair after the chemical process. These treatments are designed to drive moisture back into the hair shaft and to coat the hair strand to make it look shiny and appear healthy, or in other words -- to camouflage the damage. But no hair that has undergone a chemical relaxer is healthy. It's been purposely and permanently damaged by the chemicals... and hair can't be damaged and healthy at the same time.

Relaxed hair is always dry. This is why we're constantly putting something on it.. oiling our hair and scalp two or three times a week. There are several reasons for this: 1) Start with the moisture-stripping process of the chemical relaxer that I spoke about in the above paragraph; 2) Add the steady regimen of hot-comb touch-ups, curling irons & flat irons (all work with heat which is drying to the hair) and hair sprays and styling/holding gels, (these contain alcohol which is drying to the hair). The natural oils our scalps produce can't serve our hair's needs. The scalp can't manufacturer enough natural moisture to replenish the moisture we're stripping from our hair on a daily basis; and 3) The products we usually use in an attempt to fight dryness (usually petroleum-based products, or "grease") don't really add moisture to the hair at all. They simply coat the hair with petroleum to provide shine. At the same time, they clog the pores of the scalp so that the scalp can't secrete its own natural moisture.

Some people think that Black hair either doesn't grow as fast as Caucasian hair or doesn't grow at all. WRONG! All hair grows at the same rate on average inch per month. But the reason that most black women have shorter hair is because of breakage. Why does the hair break? Because of the harsh treatment we give it. We strip it of its moisture in every way we possibly can! So after a period of time (short for some, a little longer for others) the need for a cut to camouflage the damage done to your hair will become evident. When your stylist suggests a designer cut (like the fade), that's your cue that your hair has had enough.

Source(s):

Nappurality.com

Life salvaged in lockup | detnews.com | The Detroit News

2010-04-02T05:28:00.000-07:00

Life salvaged in lockup detnews.com The Detroit News

Marie Osmond's son dies in Los Angeles - MSN Music News

2010-03-01T11:50:00.000-08:00

Marie Osmond's son dies in Los Angeles - MSN Music News

Veca's wild about _______????

2010-02-25T09:14:00.000-08:00

Hey Hey!

There are two maybe three things other than loving God, being a mother, minister, loving my family and writing that I absolutely love. Do you know what they are? Guess.....

I know you really wanna know what those things are? Come on, what else do you have to do today? If you know me well, you should already know. Veca is wild about ........hair (to include: wigs, weaves, braids-big long amazing and wonderful hurh) ha ha ha. And she loves cereal (Kellogs Corn Flakes/Frosted Flakes with lots of sugar- and digg'em Honey Smacks (no sugar necessary). That's better than ... Okay TMI. ha ha ha. So there ya go-- Veca's true loves- hair and cereal. ha haha.

Well here's my latest project- a bright colored lace front "partner" (never call them wigs that's an insult to present day divas, okay). I grew all this new hair from my own hair shaft just last week. And that's the truth til I meet Jesus. Amen and Amant. lol lol lol

Lace fronts are so cool. I haven't mastered the application yet, but I am learning. I took close up shots so you can see it really close. When these "partners" are applied right, the look is electric. The other night, I was watching RuPaul's Drag show- oh, I love that show. I wish they would do me- you know... do my whole make over. Like they called me in Texas, "Sasha Fierce" would truly be me. They rock. On the show, one of the contestants won a $1000 "partner". I was drooling, okay. The room lit up and I saw stars. It was a beautiful lace front looked like a #30. (Only hair feens know hair numbers instead of colors) For a moment, I wanted to be a drag-queen. Uh, can I be a Queen Drag? Nah, that doesn't sound right. Well either way, I love their look. It's electric.

Oh yeah, I go weigh in today. Pass me not oh gentle savior. lol And of all days, my cycle started. Ugh. Be kind to me scale. Pray yall pray.

Later Lovelys

Veca

Young People Less Tied to Organized Religion, Poll Finds - Local News | News Articles | National News | US News - FOXNews.com

2010-02-17T12:49:00.001-08:00

Young People Less Tied to Organized Religion, Poll Finds - Local News | News Articles | National News | US News - FOXNews.com

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Real Ministry with VeeVeca- They Stole my Blessing « Verbal Conquest

2010-02-10T08:42:00.000-08:00

Real Ministry with VeeVeca- They Stole my Blessing « Verbal Conquest

Xpress Yourself Publishing: Day 35...It's Getting Easier

2010-02-04T05:46:00.000-08:00

Xpress Yourself Publishing: Day 35...It's Getting Easier

Teacher, 100, gets degree a day before dying - Life- msnbc.com

2010-01-28T05:50:00.000-08:00

Teacher, 100, gets degree a day before dying - Life- msnbc.com

Obama takes on ‘devastation’ of recession - White House- msnbc.com

2010-01-28T05:46:00.001-08:00

Obama takes on ‘devastation’ of recession - White House- msnbc.com

2010-01-28T05:46:00.000-08:00

Obama takes on ‘devastation’ of recession - White House- msnbc.com

Real Ministry with VeeVeca- Who are you... in trouble?

2010-01-27T08:00:00.000-08:00

Exhortation: Who are you, in trouble?

Scripture in view: We are troubled on every side, yet not distressed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; [2 Cor 4:8]

Trouble times like a frisbee zooms right in on you. Without thinking, you fling it away. Out of site. Out of mind. Then from out of nowhere, it comes right back to you. This time it gets your attention in the worse way. And no matter how you war, wait, wail, or win, disturbances come without notice. And the tough skin you thought you had is thinning fast. What do you do, now?

Taken from MSNBC News the article reads, "He said he spent the 11 days buried in the ruins of a hotel grocery store praying, reciting psalms and sleeping. "I wasn't afraid because I knew they were searching and would come for me," he said.

Are you buried in troubles? If so, take a lesson from this man. While his situation appeared the same, he looked beyond the circumstance opened his mouth and prayed, recited psalms and got some sleep. That's pro-active faith that says, "I don't know when, I don't know how, but I know I am going to make it out of this."

Wherever you find yourself at today, you have two choices: Stay in the rubble or get out. If getting out is your choice, I dare you to open your mouth and pray. ‘Recite psalms' or whatever scriptures you know. Say it out loud to yourself until you feel confidence growing. Don't stop. Keep repeating it. Then go to sleep. No matter the climb or struggle within, trust God with every heavy situation and circumstance. He is still the God of catching cares. His glove is never frayed or broken. Stay encouraged in the heavy– and move Forward.

VeeVeca– Real Ministry

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We're not giving up. How could we! Even though on the outside it often looks like things are falling apart on us, on the inside, where God is making new life, not a day goes by without his unfolding grace. These hard times are small potatoes compared to the coming good times, the lavish celebration prepared for us. There's far more here than meets the eye. The things we see now are here today, gone tomorrow. But the things we can't see now will last forever. [2 Corinthians 4:16-18 The Message]

Chasing God Poem by Veca

2010-01-26T08:33:00.000-08:00

Chasing God by Veca

Lord, It's me and I am chasing after you

Wherever you go, it's me

following

tagging after

stepping in your shadow

My legs may be fat

My breathing all out of whack

I may even be a lil old

but whatever I have to do

I am chasing

running

even slow jogging- after you

I know you have to go the distance

to reach all of mankind

even those like me-others don't recognize

because we are not so haughty or even high minded

looking unchurched but somehow connected

sometimes in the most un-godly places

but I am chasing after you

running after you -- as fast as I can

following

tagging after

stepping in your shadow

to reach a world shattered by false religions

and stereotypical alibis of what is and what isn't You

Please slow down, Lord

I am chasing after your heart

your will

be done in earth as it is in heaven

even in this place that others think is so not you

I am chasing, running with all my strength~even all my might

to dwell in the secret place of the Most High

forsaking Me for thee

my flesh, desire, temptation

not my will but your will be done

in this place that seems too much for me to bare

I run-- I follow~tagging after

chasing where I end and begin--

I am in the shadow of the Almighty.

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Willie Lynch Syndrome

2010-01-22T05:29:00.000-08:00

Willie Lynch Syndrome

Real Ministry with VeeVeca- Determined 2 Win

2010-01-21T12:12:00.000-08:00

Exhortation: Determined 2 Win

I am determined/destined to win in 2010! Kinda lame having a theme but who cares. It's mine and I am doing just that working hard to win in everything I put my hands to do. I made myself a list of things I want to accomplish and I am going to accomplish it all. What God has for me, it is for me. I hope you are just as inspired. Let these few scriptures ignite your determination to be your best!

• And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper. [Psalms 1:3]

• No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness is of me, saith the LORD. [Isaiah 54:17]

• For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end [Jeremiah 29:11]

• For surely there is an end; and thine expectation shall not be cut off. [Proverbs 23:18]

• So shall my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it. [Isaiah 55:11]

• Behold, the LORD's hand is not shortened, that it cannot save; neither his ear heavy, that it cannot hear: [Isaiah 59:1]

• Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ: [Phil 1:6]

• For the LORD God is a sun and shield: the LORD will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly [Psalm 84:11]

No matter the climb or struggle within, trust God with every heavy situation and circumstance. He is still the God of catching cares. His glove is never frayed or broken. Stay encouraged in the heavy– and move Forward.

Real Ministry: VeeVeca
http://www.verbalconquest.net/

Real Ministry with VeeVeca-- Who is really bound?

2010-01-13T07:59:00.000-08:00

Exhortation: Who is really bound?

Scripture in View: Wherein I suffer trouble, as an evil doer, even unto bonds; but the word of God is not bound. [2 Timothy 2:9]

God is not bound, but your thinking of God can be. When there are troubles in your life, how are you sitting?

Remember the Disney story of Goldie Locks and the Three Bears. Little Miss Bright eyes, Goldie Locks, had no idea that she was teaching a present day lesson- Fear keeps you bound, but faith gets you what you want.

Goldie Locks slipped into the house of the bears. Fascinated by choice, she began testing the water. Instinctively, she wanted to ‘feel out' every item of Momma Bear, Papa Bear and Baby Bear too, in comparison. She sat in their chairs, tested their beds, ate their food, and had the audacity to make loud affirmations of what each of those things felt like to her. Like Goldie Locks, you are sitting in the seat of choice.

How are you sitting today? Are you sitting in the seat of a little powerless out of control you. Or, are you engaging the unknown striking up the adage of ‘change is gonna come'? In review of your troubles, who is really bound- you or the thing desired? Every word of God is pure: he is a shield unto them that put their trust in him. [Proverbs 30:5]

On my desk, I have a piece of art work that says, "If your ship doesn't come in, swim out to it." Today is a great opportunity to start swimming.

No matter the climb or struggle within, trust God with every heavy situation and circumstance. He is still the God of catching cares. His glove is never frayed or broken. Stay encouraged in the heavy– and move Forward.

Real Ministry: VeeVeca
http://www.verbalconquest.net/

REAL Ministry with VeeVeca

2010-01-13T07:48:00.000-08:00

Real Ministry with VeeVeca- The God in Me

2009-12-30T11:00:00.000-08:00

Exhortation: The God in Me

Scripture in View: But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellency of the power may be of God, and not of us (2 Corinthians 4:7)

In the spirit of Kwanzaa, today is day five-Nia (NEE-yah) Purpose encourages us to look within ourselves and to set personal goals that are beneficial to the community.

I had a very interesting conversation with my boss. He saw an infomercial featuring a motivational speaker, Tony Robinson, that mimicked a conversation we recently shared. Mr. Tony Robinson said and I am paraphrasing, "We all have the ability to be happy and successful but we have to reach out and take it. But so many are afraid to get it." This was so similar to the conversation we shared during a book discussion.

The fiction book commented that human beings can evolve to greatness by God. This led us to conversation. I said, "God himself lives in us. Why can't we be great, if he is IN us? I believe we are not great because we are afraid to acknowledge a key factor– God is me and I am God, in that the creator of all is present and active inside of me. Now this great power should never be acted upon in arrogance or conceit. Rather the human being that aligns their lives around this phenomenon should act in complete gratitude and great thanks. Withal, it should power them to greatness."

The Message Translation 2 Corinthians 4:5-15
5-6 Remember, our Message is not about ourselves; we're proclaiming Jesus Christ,
the Master. All we are is messengers, errand runners from Jesus for you. It
started when God said, "Light up the darkness!" and our lives filled up with
light as we saw and understood God in the face of Christ, all bright and
beautiful.
7-12 If you only look at us, you might well miss the brightness. We
carry this precious Message around in the unadorned clay pots of our ordinary
lives. That's to prevent anyone from confusing God's incomparable power with us.
As it is, there's not much chance of that. You know for yourselves that we're
not much to look at. We've been surrounded and battered by troubles, but we're
not demoralized; we're not sure what to do, but we know that God knows what to
do; we've been spiritually terrorized, but God hasn't left our side; we've been
thrown down, but we haven't broken. What they did to Jesus, they do to us—trial
and torture, mockery and murder; what Jesus did among them, he does in us—he
lives! Our lives are at constant risk for Jesus' sake, which makes Jesus' life
all the more evident in us. While we're going through the worst, you're getting
in on the best!
13-15 We're not keeping this quiet, not on your life. Just like
the psalmist who wrote, "I believed it, so I said it," we say what we believe.
And what we believe is that the One who raised up the Master Jesus will just as
certainly raise us up with you, alive. Every detail works to your advantage and
to God's glory: more and more grace, more and more people, more and more
praise!
16-18 So we're not giving up. How could we! Even though on the outside it
often looks like things are falling apart on us, on the inside, where God is
making new life, not a day goes by without his unfolding grace. These hard times
are small potatoes compared to the coming good times, the lavish celebration
prepared for us. There's far more here than meets the eye. The things we see now
are here today, gone tomorrow. But the things we can't see now will last
forever.

So with that in mind, you have this hidden treasure [God] on the inside of you, what are you going to do with your life? Nothing is impossible. Take a moment and make yourself a list or write yourself a letter listing personal goals that you want to achieve. Allow God to be your inspiration and guide. Put them out in plain sight and review them daily. Work hard and again I say– Nothing is too hard for the God in you.

Real Ministry: VeeVeca http://www.VerbalConquest.net

Real Ministry with VeeVeca- Children are a gift

2009-12-18T07:37:00.000-08:00

Exhortation: News – Children are a gift (True news story attached)

Not every story in the news is worth reading. But today, I just read the news below and I conflicted.. I was a single parent with a dead beat dad. Lord knows, I know all about that. But somewhere between me being the single parent and my exhusband being a dead beat dad, are the children that still need encouragement, discipline, love, tenderness, direction and assortment of life skills just to make it in this world. Somewhere the mission of being a parent gets lost between ‘all I gotta do' and ‘all he ain't doing' that the child or children are lost. And right now, I am sad for the little boy in this story. I don't know the inside story, but for a 4 year old child to go to this extreme just to see his daddy somebody (one or both of the parents) have fallen off the mission of being a parent. Children belong to God first then God trust them to individuals to parent. I pray right now in the name of Jesus and the power of God that every person that has a child become more sensitive to the need and needs of that child. Children are a gift.

Real Ministry:

Veca

Beer-buzzed boy, 4, wanted to visit jailed dad
Mom says he got drunk, stole girl's dress because he 'wants to go to jail'

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/34465839/ns/us_news-weird_news/?gt1=43001

updated 4:18 p.m. ET, Thurs., Dec . 17, 2009

CHATTANOOGA, Tenn. - Tennessee investigators say a 4-year-old boy was found roaming his neighborhood in the night, drinking beer and wearing a little girl's dress taken from under a neighbor's Christmas tree.
The child's mother, 21-year-old April Wright, told WTVC-TV that the boy "wants to go to jail because that's where his daddy is."
Wright said she and the boy's father are going though a divorce.

The boy, found outside his house in Chattanooga on Tuesday, was taken to a hospital and treated for alcohol consumption.
Hamilton County Sheriff's Department spokeswoman Janice Atkinson said the incident is being investigated but the department declined to release the report.
The boy's mother said she met with child protective services and was told she will get to keep custody of her son.

Exhortation with VeeVeca-More than an Image

2009-12-09T08:02:00.000-08:00

Exhortation: The Secret: More than an Image

When you look at yourself in the mirror, what do you see? Do you smile lovingly at yourself and declare, "I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well." [Psalms 139:14] Are you smiling at yourself showing all of your beautiful teeth? Or, do you look at yourself distastefully with a growl and a heavy burden of dissatisfaction? This is your body, your temple, and you hate it.

Today, millions of people woke up without the secret. What secret is that? Glad you asked. The secret is this– You are more than an image.

From clay to egg to development, you were created by God in the image of himself. Your eyes, your nose, your ears and even the way your smile twitches when you laugh. It’s his mark of identity that claims you as his own. What if the twitch was God’s way of identifying you amongst all of his children?

Imagine this, we are in heaven. God calls for you, but he doesn’t call you by
your birth name. Rather, the father calls you by the birth mark. The very
identification imprint that he gave to distinguish you from all the rest. Dare
you believe that God is smarter than a fifth grader! The Almighty Father made
the human frame and perfected genes and hormones, marrow and bones to come
together to construct a perfect you, in his own image.

The father calls out, "Twitch, where are you?" He looks over the whole crowd. His voice is soothing like waves moving in water. "Twitch, I am looking for you."

The children move about in hurried anticipation. Talk about the
old lady in the shoe having so many children she didn’t know what to do. With
God, that’s not a problem. He has many mansions and children to fit them all.
And he knows exactly what to do. "Twitch are you playing hide and
seek?"

You cover your mouth, but it doesn’t completely hide the twitch. No matter what you do the twitch never leaves. It’s your thorn in the flesh and your Achilles heel. You mumble, "Nobody loves how I look, not even me."

God is walking among his children. He sees Big Eyes over there. He smiles. He winks at Full Lips. Then he pats Big Ears on his way. Bald Head tells him a joke and they laugh out loud. Contrary to popular belief, the father loves to laugh with
his children. "Now , Twitch, where are you?" He says recovering from a hardy
laugh.

You hear the father’s voice. Your head hangs low. "If only I didn’t have this twitch," you think silently. Ah... Ah..." You sneeze pushing your head upward and your hands away from your lips.

"Well there you are, child." God’s face gleams with expectancy. "I’ve been looking for you. How are you today?"

What will you say? "Well dad you really screwed up when you made me. See this twitch here... It won’t let me in the right places, meet the best people. It’s sorta like a handicap. A bottle, I can’t unscrew. It’s the ugliest mess I’ve ever seen. I mean really, if I didn’t have this.... I.."

The father stares. "So, let me understand you. The twitch...
that I gave you doesn’t work for your image. It doesn’t profit you in this
world? And basically you are telling me that my craftsmanship of creation
is now unacceptable?"

If you had to stand face to face with God about your twitch, how would you
score?

There are millions of people who hate the skin they are in. Today, consider the maker of your body. God loves you just as you are. He wants you healthy, happy and free. "Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth." [3 John 1:2]

No matter the climb or struggle within, trust God with every heavy situation and circumstance. He is still the God of catching cares. His glove is never frayed or broken.

Stay encouraged in the heavy– and move Forward

Real Ministry: VeeVeca VeeVeca Lavoira,Author http://www.verbalconquest.net/
Kind words are short to speak, but their echo lasts forever..."

Real Ministry with VeeVeca-Hold Tight to what you Know

2009-12-02T06:54:00.000-08:00

Hold tight to what you know

At church, on tv, a powerful word comes your way. Immediately, it catches your attention. Your issues are up front and very personal. What you hear springs you to movement. It feels so good. Your troubles seem so far away like dinosaurs. Although physically you may look the same, but inscribed on your chest feels like a big letter ‘S' for super man/woman has been etched into your skin. At that time, nothing feels impossible. So much so that you feel a wiry zealous and confident appeal combing over your demeanor. As if, a striking sense of ‘I wish you would' brute awareness rolls smoothly from your mouth. "This is it," as Michael Jackson would say.

Hold tight to the moment. Don't let it slip or return to you void. In Mark 4, Jesus gives a parable (a lesson) that believers should study regularly, after getting a dose of God and positive array of his fuel for life. Why? Because when the feelings are gone– it's gone gone. Then like the song, you'll be left singing, "Bring back that loving feeling."

[Mark 4: 13-23 The Message Translation] "Do
you see how this story works? All my stories work this way. "The farmer plants
the Word. Some people are like the seed that falls on the hardened soil of the
road. No sooner do they hear the Word than Satan snatches away what has been
planted in them. And some are like the seed that lands in the gravel. When they
first hear the Word, they respond with great enthusiasm. But there is such
shallow soil of character that when the emotions wear off and some difficulty
arrives, there is nothing to show for it. "The seed cast in the weeds represents
the ones who hear the kingdom news but are overwhelmed with worries about all
the things they have to do and all the things they want to get. The stress
strangles what they heard, and nothing comes of it. "But the seed planted in the
good earth represents those who hear the Word, embrace it, and produce a harvest
beyond their wildest dreams." Jesus went on: "Does anyone bring a lamp home and
put it under a washtub or beneath the bed? Don't you put it up on a table or on
the mantel? We're not keeping secrets, we're telling them; we're not hiding
things, we're bringing them out into the open. "Are you listening to this?
Really listening?"

Point 1: God has a positive fix for your drama-The Word. For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. [Hebrews 4:12]

Point 2: The devil is coming for what you have. The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly [John 10:10]

Point 3: It's on me to stir up and remember what God says about me. Wherefore I put thee in remembrance that thou stir up the gift of God, which is in thee [2 Timothy 2:1] Yea, I think it meet, as long as I am in this tabernacle, to stir you up by putting you in remembrance; [2 Peter 1:13] This second epistle, beloved, I now write unto you; in both which I stir up your pure minds by way of remembrance [2 Peter 3:1]

No matter the climb or struggle within, trust God with every heavy situation and circumstance. He is still the God of catching cares. His glove is never frayed or broken.

Stay encouraged in the heavy– and move Forward

Real Ministry: VeeVeca http://www.VerbalConquest.net

Real Ministry with VeeVeca-Where's your confidence, Soldier

2009-11-24T06:59:00.000-08:00

Where is your confidence, Soldier?

"Endure hardness, as a good soildier of Jesus Christ." (2 Timothy 2:3)

Times of hardness are inevitable. Stop playing. Life happens fast. Sometimes you feel like a nut. Sometimes you don't. When living is easy, it's hardly a fuss from your lips. Money isn’t funny. All is well. But everyday isn’t so sunny.

Just when the tables turn, living shows up with chaos and drama. In a fret, the attack is closer than the hair in our nose. It stops all passage including the air flow. We can’t breathe. Where’s the victory now? What about the rescue scriptures?

Child of God, did you forget what you are? You are a soldier in the army of God. You are as the dictionary describes, (1) one engaged in military service and especially in the army b : an enlisted man or woman c : a skilled warrior (2): a militant leader, follower, or worker.

War is hard, you think! Um... it’s war. Stop playing. It is suppose to be hard. Endure the hardness, as a good soldier of Jesus Christ. Meaning, put on the whole weaponry of God to battle against the attack. Don’t shriek or lament in combat. It’s time to fight. Man/Woman/boy or girl, you are the called, the equipped, ordained and anointed. You are the vessel of honor for God's victory.

Historically, the levites were on the front lines charging ahead in battle. They ran with zeal because they were confident of victory. They new the secret: It is God that goes before you to make crooked places straight. If God is for you, who can be against you? Today soldier, get your confidence and move forward!

No matter the climb or struggle within, trust God with every heavy situation and circumstance. He is still the God of catching cares. His glove is never frayed or broken.

Stay encouraged in the heavy– and move Forward
Real Ministry: VeeVeca

Real Ministry with VeeVeca-Still need saving

2009-11-19T06:59:00.001-08:00

Exhortation: Still need saving?

People who experience a life change with Jesus often declare, "I am saved." The excitement and expectancy is all over their faces. Over the years, though they are still saved, some of the thrill is gone.

Where is your excitement today? Have you gotten weary in well-doing. Is your happy gone and your down is now your norm? Honey, don’t trip. We have all been there. There is absolutely nothing going on that God hasn’t seen in you, me, and the rest of the believers of the world. The same ‘I am saved’ is the same ‘saved’ that will turn your frown to a smile.

Allow me to share some encouragement. God made a phenomenal promise in Zechariah 8. He is talking about saving Zion, which is conveyed toward us. Believers are Zion. He mentions the city of Jerusalem, which is primarily regarded to being wherever he is. If you really need saving today, I send these words to encourage you.

Zechariah 8 (The Message)
And then these Messages from
God-of-the-Angel-Armies: A Message from God-of-the-Angel-Armies: "I am zealous
for Zion—I care! I'm angry about Zion—I'm involved!" God's Message: 3"I've come
back to Zion, I've moved back to Jerusalem.Jerusalem's new names will be Truth
City, and Mountain of God-of-the-Angel-Armies, and Mount Holiness." I've come
back to Zion, I've moved back to Jerusalem. Jerusalem's new names will be Truth
City, and Mountain of God-of-the-Angel-Armies, and Mount Holiness."

"Old
men and old women will come back to Jerusalem, sit on benches on the streets and
spin tales, move around safely with their canes—a good city to grow old in. And
boys and girls will fill the public parks, laughing and playing—a good city to
grow up in."

"Do the problems of returning and rebuilding by just a few
survivors seem too much? But is anything too much for me? Not if I have my say."
A Message from God-of-the-Angel-Armies: "I'll collect my people from countries
to the east and countries to the west. I'll bring them back and move them into
Jerusalem. They'll be my people and I'll be their God. I'll stick with them and
do right by them."

"Get a grip on things. Hold tight, you who are
listening to what I say through the preaching of the prophets. The Temple of
God-of-the-Angel-Armies has been reestablished. The Temple is being rebuilt.
We've come through a hard time: You worked for a pittance and were lucky to get
that; the streets were dangerous; you could never let down your guard; I had
turned the world into an armed camp.

"But things have changed. I'm taking the side of my core of surviving people: Sowing and harvesting will resume, Vines will grow grapes, Gardens will flourish, Dew and rain will make everything green. "My core survivors will get everything they need—and more. You've gotten a reputation as a bad-news people, you people of Judah and Israel, but I'm coming to save you. From now on, you're the good-news people. Don't be afraid. Keep a firm grip on what I'm doing."

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West Charlotte student named Good Samaritan

2009-10-30T07:44:00.000-07:00

West Charlotte student named Good Samaritan

Real Ministry with VeeVeca- Coping

2009-10-22T08:52:00.001-07:00

Coping--

Change gone come... Joy comes in the morning. These words have been spoken to encourage many. So much so, they are often sang in the chords of spiritual songs. But what about you? Has your change come? Is it morning time in your life or is the clock still ticking waiting on a miracle.

"Lord, how do we hold on,"when we are stuck between the hard place and a big rock called broke and the mortgage is due and dreams need financing? What do we do.

In the challenge and pressure of today, there is one word to sum it up. Cope. How do you cope in a diverse world with economic challenges and plunging deficits? The word cope means : to maintain a contest or combat usually on even terms or with success : to deal with and attempt to overcome problems and difficulties.

This is not a scientific equation here: Problem + You = Perseverence, Struggle, and Work.

Here's an example:

Sally and John are married with 3 children, one in college, one in middle
school, and one in day-care. John loses his job and the family's savings are
depleted. What can they do?
Learn this quickly. There are no magic tricks in
the storm. In front of you is reality and truth. Between the two, you will find
the aesthetics of coping.
Sally and John are mad, but in different ways.
Sally calls for help. John is getting more destructive listening to Sally on the
phone. She looks at him. His face is flushed and she knows only a miracle can
help. Frankly, she knew, miracles don't always knock on doors. So she hangs up
the phone and gathers her purse. "John," she says, "we can get food at the food
bank." John is still in a fury. "There's no gas in the car."
Stuck between the means of getting and having can make any human snap. Stop and breathe. Regroup and push yourself back up. Don't let the truth of your reality landslide you into giving up. Take authority (as best you can) and get up.
Sally moves forward in securing a ride and food for her family. The problem isn't totally resolved but at least (which is a pivotal point) she has removed some of the
strain. John remains bitter.
While you are in the storm, being thankful for the ‘at least aspects of your life will help turn your dark days into brighter
opportunities.

Stay encouraged in the heavy– and move Forward.

Real Ministry:

VeeVeca http://www.VerbalConquest.net

Real Ministry with VeeVeca-Love Overload

2009-10-21T08:54:00.001-07:00

Exhortation: Love Over Load ?+ -=

He loves me? He loves me not? She loves me. She loves me not.

Let's be ojective. What is love? I mean, deep down in your heart. How do you define it? In the spiritual sense, is love what is stated in 1 Corinthian 13-3-8

And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing. Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth.

As a Christian woman, I believe that we earnestly encompass those aspects of love in our love efforts. So much so that often we live in the degrees of being that physical dynamic of what loves is--

giving all not looking for a return, suffering long, not being jealous or boastful or prideful, being kind, seeking the good of others-- baring all things...... enduring all things.

(I hope you are getting my point here). So much so until sometimes we become a door mat to fools for the sake of love.

Child please, stop for a moment and let's look at this clearly. How can one person do so much and not ever look to see if they are getting anything back? Are you serious? Would you go to work and not expect a paycheck? What's Love got to do with it, then. Everything. Love is a two part equasion that equals both entities being full. If one aspect is lacking, love is not working.

Regroup and find yourself before you wreck yourself.

Real Ministry

VeeVeca www.verbalconquest.net

Excerpt from: Living a Five Star Life, by Betty Mahalik

2009-10-13T06:32:00.000-07:00

In this day and age, we are surrounded by messages that virtually scream, "Your life would be perfect if..." My life would be perfect if I had a different job, a different house, car, nose, spouse, bank account (fill in the blank). Or my life would be perfect if I could be like some celebrity whose life appears so well-ordered and perfect-o. This week I encourage you to stop playing "my life would be perfect if," and start playing "my perfect life." What's the difference? Three things: being in the present, an attitude of gratitude, taking action with what's available now.

When we're caught up in the "my life would be perfect if" trap, we've lost touch with the present. And the moment we detach from the present, we can no longer practice gratitude. Think about it: it's difficult to be grateful for what you don't have...and what you don't have is always somewhere out in future-ville.

Look around you right now. Think of 10 things you're grateful for. Do you have a roof over your head and food to eat? I'm guessing the answer is yes. Do you have at least a few good friends or close relationships? Then appreciate them too, right now. Keep going, and practice being in the present and being grateful for what is here and now at least a couple times a day.

You're also probably sitting there thinking "yes but." Yes, but I want more money, a better relationship, more time to travel, to be thinner, happier or whatever. It's one of the great mysteries I'll never figure out. The minute you stop focusing on what you lack, start focusing on what you've already got, and add the "magic" ingredient of action, you actually begin to attract more of what you want. It's an amazing formula for really living your perfect life!

Let's say you want to lose weight or get in better shape, but you don't have an hour a day to spend exercising at the gym. Therefore, you've pretty well resigned yourself to not losing weight or getting in shape. What if you had five minutes though...just about everyone can find five minutes to exercise, stretch, walk around the block or walk the dog. Would you be willing to be grateful for five minutes and make the best possible use of it? Therein lies the beginning of your perfect life!

A simple formula may help you remember how to apply this principle:
The present
+ an attitude of gratitude
+ positive action
= my perfect life.

Try it for a day.
Each time you start dreaming about how perfect your life would be if...come back to this moment, give thanks for what is, and do one thing to perfect what you have and who you are right now. There's a saying that "when the student is ready, the teacher appears." If you're ready to start perfecting your life, your teachers are all around you.

Whitney Houston: I look to you

2009-09-15T11:43:00.000-07:00

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Real Ministry with VeeVeca-Diamond in the Rough (Whitney Houston)

2009-09-02T06:36:00.000-07:00

Diamond in the rough

If you cant love the diamond in the rough, why love it when it shines. Go Whitney!

I watched a portion of Whitney Houston on Good Morning Amercia, I am at work so I had to sneak a peak. I am so proud. Why? I never doubted her come back. I loved her through the good and bad times. She is phenomenal.

When the world turn its back on her, I turned my prayers for her! I love the lady and the gift that lives powerfully in her. When people made mean comments about her, I was offended. "Don’t talk about my Whitney," I said protecting her like family. In my heart, she was family. God made her family on a narrow road with a small bridge.

Years ago, I was coming back from lunch. It was a typical work day. I drove across a narrow road with a small bridge. And I heard it as clear as I saw the small road in front of me, "Pray for Whitney." I didn’t doubt it was God that I heard. Nor did I doubt the power of prayer.
I am a regular person not great to some but to someone else I am awesome. But God found me worthy of a task. I had heart, even when heartless could have been the human response. Resilently from the rubble of chaos, heart rises. And boy have I had to rise.

I believed in Whitney even when it didn’t look like CHANGE was coming. And that’s a powerful aspect there. How can you love somebody when you don’t see a change … around the corner, down the street, up the road, somewhere …. anywhere? That’s where God steps in covering a multitude of sins. Human, ah ha, can’t do that but God in all of his magesty can, and he does it in such a way that blinds you from the agony of what others may see, think, smell and feel. Have you ever loved a person that everybody else saw clean through, but you loved them anyway. Child, please… I been there too.

But today as I watched Whitney, I was proud of love. Love (God’s agape love) does not fail. It keeps on moving and working in the middle of the storm, at the end of the storm to victory and war all over again. Again I say,

"If you can’t love the diamond in the rough, why love it when it shines."

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Real Ministry with VeeVeca- How Big is Your Forgiveness

2009-08-28T10:17:00.000-07:00

How Big is Your Forgiveness?

True repentance is hating what you did so much that you wish it never happened. Running over your dog with your back tire would be the feeling I am fetching for. Poor Little FeFe is gone.

What if you could undo the accident? Remove the dog from the path of your tire and re-do the entire scene.

With that in mind, how big is your forgiveness today? Can you forgive the people that stepped on you to get ahead? Excuse the mean cashier with "a day late and a dollar short" attitude? Can you put yourself in their shoes, in their hot heated life. Where is your tolerance and leniency. Is it possible to forgive and forget?

Little FeFe represents issues that invade your life without notice. Disregarding or not seeing her is a costly mistake. Before you kill the opportunity in your day, take a moment to regard offense with a sober mind. You have one chance to make the right choice and one chance to construct a litter of mishaps that aren’t "microwave" fixes. Forgive more than you complain.

No matter the climb or struggle within, trust God with every heavy situation and circumstance. He is still the God of catching cares. His glove is never frayed or broken.

Stay encouraged in the heavy– and move Forward.

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Real Ministry with VeeVeca-After the Storm

2009-08-26T07:05:00.000-07:00

After the Storm

There are many stories of "going through" the storms of life. We can all relate. Broke, busted, disgusted- we’ve all been there. But what about after the storm? Are you frantically jumping and shouting because you came through the squall of pressure?

The release/relief has come but what else can you do?

Reflect. Take a moment and look back at the real you, before the relief/blessing came? Answer a few self inventory questions...

If there was a lesson to learn, did I learn it?

Was God okay with me during the trial, test or challenge?

Did I endure, pass, or fail?

Did I give up?

Did I try to make a way even when all seemed lost?

Could hope be found in my heart, although I was in a hopeless state of being?

Did I ask God to help my unbelief (because at points I did doubt), even when worse had come to worst?

Did I still believe and wait on God-anyway?

Was I angry and blamed others for where I was?

Did I look at myself and see if I could have made better choices?

Did I take ownership to any part of the trouble?

If you take the time to answers these questions honestly, you will learn a lot about yourself, your faith, and the challenge ultimately seeing your strengths and weakness.

No matter the climb or struggle within, trust God with every heavy situation and
circumstance. He is still the God of catching cares. His glove is never frayed
or broken. Stay encouraged in the heavy– and move Forward.

Real Ministry: VeeVeca
http://www.VerbalConquest.net

Flip Flops- beware

2009-08-19T07:39:00.000-07:00

Can your flip-flops kill you?

Ah, the casual, comfortable flip-flop: A symbol of summertime, an emblem of relaxation - and a harbinger of death? That may be overstating it a little bit, but not by too terribly much, health experts say.http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/32453516?GT1=43001/from/ET

(That's not my foot there. But I love flip flops. Whoever came up with the idea... kudos to ya.)

Real Ministry with VeeVeca- Bummed! How do I smile?

2009-08-19T06:08:00.000-07:00

Bummer! How can I smile now?

The walls are closing in and it looks like defeat is inching in closer than it did yesterday. What do you do when you are bummed out/ bum-rushed like a quarterback with the hottest ball in your hands. Everybody and everything is rushing to tackle you down. How do you hold on to the ball? How do you keep the winning ticket in your grip?

Hold on tighter. Scream out loud, "Feet don't fail me now" and move in torpedo faith. Remember faith isn't what is seen. It is what you feel deep inside gassed with God fuel for the journey.
The Lord never closes a door without opening a window. May confidence built your smile and a glaze of hope crack open the spontaneity of possibility. God is still good the end.

Psalm 24 A David Psalm (The message translation)

God claims Earth and everything in it, God claims World and all who live on it. He built it on Ocean foundations, laid it out on River girders. Who can climb Mount God? Who can scale the holy north-face? Only the clean-handed, only the pure-hearted; Men who won't cheat, women who won't seduce. God is at their side; with God's help they make it. This, Jacob, is what happens to God-seekers, God-questers.

Wake up, you sleepyhead city! Wake up, you sleepyhead people!
King-Glory is ready to enter. Who is this King-Glory? God, armed and
battle-ready. Wake up, you sleepyhead city! Wake up, you sleepyhead people!
King-Glory is ready to enter. Who is this King-Glory? God-of-the-Angel-Armies: he is King-Glory.

No matter the climb or struggle within, trust God with every heavy situation and circumstance. He is still the God of catching cares. His glove is never frayed or broken.

Stay encouraged in the heavy– and move Forward

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Real Ministry with VeeVeca- CHANGE in Broke Times

2009-08-13T07:18:00.000-07:00

Change in Broke Times

Bad news is electric. It comes on fast and before you can tell it, it’s on! In every neighborhood, there are problems. Every family is battling some issue. Sisters are broke. Brothers are without jobs. Our very American economy is on vacation without the extra spending cash. So what’s up? What do you do when Everybody is broke and Everybody is having a difficult time. Even the "rescue/help" people in your inner circle are zipping up their pockets to pay their own bills.

How do you not drown in the sorrow of guilt, bills, and despair? Take a look around you and steady yourself. Borrow a line from Medea when the phone rings, "Praise the Lord. Halleuyer. Glory to God. We not in. Leave a message at the sanctified beep. If this is a bill collector I rebuke you in the name of Jesus."

Then laugh out loud.

Honey, I know it’s bad right now. But if you woke up this morning and can read this message, you did one important thing– You showed up for life. That’s right, you showed up for life. Your feet are still underneath you and God is still God. Relax a bit, try hard, and let the Father show out in your life. Grow up, this is not a marathon or a faith microwave fix. It’s hard now and those that have to endure will have to ‘dure the test, as some old folks would say. Roll up your sleeve and steady yourself, God is still working on you... and me.

This morning, I was walking from one side of the building to the other, God showed me the same tree I see everyday as I walk the same path. But there was something different today. This huge tree looked normal but when I passed it ... I saw it– SAW IT. The green leaves were moving sporadically but against the beauty, I saw sections of brown. And at that very moment, I heard it clearly, "I know when to change and how to change."

Although many are struggling, God is aware. Immediately in my mind, I heard Ecclesiastes 3:1– "To every thing there is a season." Now what do we do. "Be strong in the grace that is in God and Christ Jesus. Endure the hardness knowing that God is your ______ and ______. When you know what those blanks are, you will dance again, even in trouble.

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Real Ministry with VeeVeca- Why believe His lie

2009-08-03T13:50:00.000-07:00

Why do we believe his lie?

Hi I am VeeVeca Lavoira, Author and Evangelist. But mostly– I am a lot of woman. Today, I have a question. What makes us believe his lie? Do we feel sorry for the mishaps of a man’s misfortune so much so that we let little things slide. Like him not showing up on time? Not paying for the meal? Or, he forgot that he was supposed to do a thing. Seemingly excusing bad behavior for the "I meant to" or the "If I could I would" lines. What’s up with that?

Do we coddle the man to keep him? Look over the obvious and figure, one day (whenever that is) he’ll get it right (or we die hoping change comes). Or do we let him go, to break him, make him, or be made ourselves? Why do women feel responsible her man’s well-being? I’m just saying, He that finds a wife finds a good thing? I didn’t write the story, I’m just sharing the... What Is Written.

As a woman, are we that hard up for a man that we accept less effort just to have a bag of bones to say "I gotta my man"? Is it that good to have nothing... that you have to work hard to f a t t e n up just to keep him? Is it a sense of duty to save him or you?

In this hip hop nation, I heard it just like you’ve heard it. "I’m down for my man" Or better yet, "Yeah, I am a ride or die chick". Young ladies say it everyday as if they are positioned to "man up". But if you are manning up, what is he doing?

If you want more, be and expect more.

No matter the climb or struggle within, trust God with every heavy situation and circumstance. He is still the God of catching cares. His glove is never frayed or broken.

Stay encouraged in the heavy– and move Forward
Real Ministry: VeeVeca http://www.verbalconquest.net/

Exercise-Love it or Hate it?

2009-08-03T06:19:00.000-07:00

BBOF-Building Blocks of Fitness a yahoo group of fitness folks trying (hard as it is) to get right and stay right in health, exercise & nutrition.
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What are your thoughts about exercise? Do you love it or hate it?

VeeVeca's Thoughts on Exercise.... Honestly, I wish I had the body that didn't require extensive exercise or training. If only, I had the genes or hormones of the Bod Gods! Flat in all the right places and perkey in all the other great areas. What a life that would be to never ever... ever have to worry about a dip, a roll, a bulge, or the nemesis-- the scale!

But for the bulge in my middle and the extra servings here and there, I have some challenges before me. But at least....I am blessed to have the mobility to exercise. Because quite honestly it really could be far worse. So I drag myself (literally drag) onto my elllipitical a few times each week, sometimes only for a few minutes at a time and at other times I go in for a full 20 minute program. Aurah!!!

Either way, life is about being healthy and that comes one day-one exercise moment at a time. And never forget-- eating right is the right thing to do. Spluringing should be a limited treat. To splurge once a week or once a month, should be a happy time. However, be careful that you are not living in the splurge of bad eating and choosing to have limited times of good healthy eating.

Share your thoughts today! Blog with me: http://www.verbalconquest.blogspot.com/ and http://www.verbalconquest.wordpress.com/

VeeVeca, BBOF Moderator

Real Ministry with VeeVeca-- Soft Landing

2009-07-30T10:06:00.000-07:00

Soft Landing

As you travel through your Monday through Sunday, I bid you Soft Landing. What does that mean? Come let's board the Life Flight.

When you get up on the wrong side of the bed, I hope a soft floor will please your steps.

As you start on your way, may God create in you a clean heart and a renew a right spirit in you.

I pray you board this Life Flight with confidence and purpose.

Old bags can't come along.

But, if they should come along and you stumble on your way, may the attendant of Mercy and Kindness restore you again.

Remember– The mercy you get is the mercy you extend. Nobody is perfect.

This flight is for everybody– jacked up and all.

Board with God and buckle up with His Word.

Should negativity come your way, I pray a bit of sunshine will lift your head in glee.

For the moment when you need to be heard, I hope you'll talk to God first.

I pray you travel in meekness, despite the agony of your past.

I wish you a beautiful sky to look upon, aside from your clouds of pain.

May good opportunities to meet you head on, as you wait patiently for the connection.

If you have some turbulence, don't worry. God is on board.

Forgive more than you intend.

Let peace have her way with you.

Don't fight, murmur or complain.

Laugh more than you frown.

If a tear should fall, may there always be a soft tissue or a strong hand to remove the stain.

Forgive the past and look bright toward the future.

This Life Flight is long and often there are no perks to the ride.

Use what you have to make the best of the moment.

Don't get side tracked, caught up on the time.

Where you have been isn't where you are going.

Take a deep breath, may you have Safe Landing.

In life we all go through hardness, turmoil, and adversity. May you have a soft landing through your trials and storms.

No matter the climb or struggle within, trust God with every heavy situation and circumstance. He is still the God of catching cares. His glove is never frayed or broken.

Stay encouraged in the heavy– and move Forward

Real Ministry: VeeVeca http://www.verbalconquest.net/

Woman Pours Boiling Water on Husband

2009-07-29T10:40:00.001-07:00

What would you do?

I read the story below about the woman who poured boiling water over her husbands genitals for cheating while he was sleeping. The question isn't what would you do, if it were you. Rather the question is... What wouldn't you do?

VeeVeca's Two Points--

* If you cheat, Don't sleep where cheat

* Don't cheat where you sleep

Woman Pours Boiling Water on Husband's Crotch

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What happened to NOT cheating at all?

Black Youth Invents Surgical Technique at 14

2009-07-28T10:09:00.000-07:00

This article should be posted everywhere, which reminds me of something my 15 year old son said as he is attending an Emerging Leaders 6 week summer camp.. "People always show the bad things that black people do. What about the good things?" How right is that? Black people are doing great things. This article proves it!

Style Essentials - Qcitymetro Style Blog | Charlotte African American Community News, Black Community Charlotte | Qcitymetro

2009-07-28T09:45:00.001-07:00

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E. Lynn Harris: Dead At 54

2009-07-27T09:46:00.001-07:00

E. Lynn Harris: Dead At 54

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African American Author E. Lynn Harris passed away at the age of 54 this morning in Arkansas.
E. Lynn Harris, the best-selling Arkansas author known for contemporary stories about African-Americans, died today during a West Coast book tour. His latest book was called “Basketball Jones.”
E. Lynn Harris, the best-selling Arkansas author known for contemporary stories about African-Americans, died today during a West Coast book tour. His personal assistant confirmed an unspecified health event this morning, but said she was awaiting word from the scene before providing specifics..
Arkansas Sports 360 provided the first formal report that Harris had died. The item did not cite a source, but Harris was close to the UA Athletic Department and had worked as coach and sponsor of the cheerleaders. Black Voices later confirmed the report, citing a spokesman for his publisher.
Word of the health event began making the rounds on Twitter earlier in the morning.
Born in Michigan, Harris grew up in Little Rock. He attended the University of Arkansas at Fayetteville, where he was the school’s first black cheerleader. He continued to be a diehard Razorback fan. He has taught adjunct courses in the English department, most recently last fall.
His latest book, “Basketball Jones,” is about the gay lover of an NBA star. Says the publicity blurb: “In Basketball Jones, E. Lynn Harris explores the consequences of loving someone who is forced to conform to the rules society demands its public heroes follow. Filled with nonstop twists and turns, it will keep readers riveted from the first page to the last.” According to his website biography, Harris, 54, divides his time between Fayetteville and Atlanta.

Real Ministry with VeeVeca-I am not ALONE

2009-07-24T07:18:00.000-07:00

I am not ALONE

This morning, I walked out of my parent’s house. Fat Mama, my mother’s cat, was at the door whimpering affectionately. In the past, I didn’t do cats. They looked evil, in my eyes. Or maybe I was just a scarey cat, as I have been teased before.

I grabbed the bag of cat foot. Fat Mama strolled right alone to the cadence of my steps. I poured the bits into her silver bowl. She looked at it and turned her eyes at me signifying that my job was done.

As I walked away, I peered over my shoulder. Fat Mama wasn’t eating. She was in fact looking and watching her surroundings very carefully, as if on guard duty. Out from underneath the rubble, came four or five mini-Fat mama’s. The kittens were so small, cute, and cuddly. They ran to the bowl, jumping frantically over the other.

Fat Mama stood still watching the area gaging any harm or threat.

At that moment I heard so clearly, "Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment? Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they? Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature?" [Matthew 6:25,26]

Right there in my parent’s yard, God shared a moment of inspiration, in an amazing scene of a mother cat caring for her babies! A consequence that could have easily gone unnoticed by the human eye. But dare we believe God is not looking out for us?

Fat Mama watched her babies eat. Then she made her way to the bowl.

I stood back in awe allowing the moment to sink deep into my heart and mind. God, creator of everything, showed up in the nick of time (I wasn’t supposed to be there) to show a bigger pictures through an innocent almost unseen phenomenon!

Why worry, you are never alone. I got you. I am looking out for you. So go ahead... I got you!

No matter the climb or struggle within, trust God with every heavy situation and circumstance. He is still the God of catching cares. His glove is never frayed or broken.

Stay encouraged in the heavy– and move Forward

Real Ministry: VeeVeca http://www.verbalconquest.net/

Real Ministry with VeeVeca

2009-07-23T07:19:00.000-07:00

What can you do for FREE but get PAID for it?

This morning as I was driving in to work. Familar words popped in my head from a prophet friend of mine, "What can you do for free but get paid for it?"

I love writing and ministry. I felt born to do both. Over the years, I have been connecting the dots to what I want... to what I had. Before the internet days, I was mailing a quarterly encouragement newsletter called, Arise and Shine. It was about reaching out to real people with real problems helping to see a real God as the daily answers to life. As technology advanced, I started sending exhortations (encouragement expressions) to the group that has grown over a few hundred people. Eventually, I began writing novels. The first one .... well I had to re-work it and learn about the book business.

Face it-Nothing is a quick advance. But if you work what you have and don't give up, the fruit of your labor will be rewarded.

What are your hobbies? What can you do on the side for free and people will pay you money to do it? Can you...

Sing, Dance, Draw/Paint? Make up a flyer and advertise your skill.

Are you good at talking to people? Register as a Motivational Speaker and seek out groups that need what you have to speak about.

Do you like to have fun? Make it a business helping others to find fun in the city where you live.

Use your skill-set to make life what you would like it to be. Life really is what you make it!

Real Ministry: VeeVeca http://www.verbalconquest.net/

Bill Cosby says it All

2009-07-21T09:05:00.000-07:00

'They're standing on the corner and they can't speak English.

I can't even talk the way these people talk: Why you ain't, Where you is, What he drive, Where he stay, Where he work, Who you be... And I blamed the kid until I heard the mother talk. And then I heard the father talk.

Everybody knows it's important to speak English except these knuckleheads. You can't be a doctor with that kind of crap coming out of your mouthIn fact you will never get any kind of job making a decent living. People marched and were hit in the face with rocks to get an Education, and now we've got these knuckleheads walking around..

The lower economic people are not holding up their end in this deal. These people are not parenting. They are buying things for kids. $500 sneakers for what? And they won't spend $200 for Hooked on Phonics.

I am talking about these people who cry when their son is standing there in an orange suit. Where were you when he was 2?Where were you when he was 12? Where were you when he was 18 and how come you didn't know that he had a pistol?

And where is the father? Or who is his father?

People putting their clothes on backward: Isn't that a sign of something gone wrong?

People with their hats on backward, pants down around the crack, isn't that a sign of something? Isn't it a sign of something when she has her dress all the way up and got all type of needles [piercing] going through her body? What part of Africa did this come from?? We are not Africans. Those people are not Africans; they don't know a thing about Africa .....

I say this all of the time. It would be like white people saying they are European-American. That is totally stupid.

I was born here, and so were my parents and grandparents and, very likely my great grandparents. I don't have any connection to Africa, no more than white Americans have to Germany , Scotland, England, Ireland, or the Netherlands .

The same applies to 99 percent of all the black Americans as regards to Africa . So stop, already! ! ! With names like Shaniqua, Taliqua and Mohammed and all of that crap ......... and all of them are in jail. Brown or black versus the Board of Education is no longer the white person's problem.

We have got to take the neighborhood back. People used to be ashamed. Today a woman has eight children with eight different 'husbands' -- or men or whatever you call them now.

We have millionaire football players who cannot read. We have million-dollar basketball players who can't write two paragraphs.

We, as black folks have to do a better job. Someone working at Wal-Mart with seven kids, you are hurting us. We have to start holding each other to a higher standard..

We cannot blame the white people any longer.'

Dr.. William Henry 'Bill' Cosby, Jr., Ed..D.

Real Ministry with VeeVeca

2009-07-20T08:59:00.000-07:00

It's my Life

Motivating Scriptures: "Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth. For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God." [Colossians 3:2,3]

Are you caught between your life and the life others want you to live?

How many lives do you think you have? Do you have 9 lives as a (folk lore) cat does? A life that can be discarded when things go wrong and a new one zapped into reality at will?

If this were true, it would be no big deal to let other people run your life and there life too. Why not let others run 8 of those lives and you run the last one for yourself. Go ahead. Fork over those lives to those who feel they can run it better than you. Smile big and hand it over to them saying, "Have fun with it, okay?" Nine times out of ten, they will not do much better. Of course one person may show you up, but who cares. They may be smarter, older and even more experienced. But the fact is simple– there is only one life to live!

Each person is born with the gift of life. It's one life, one chance, and one shot. There is not a collect $100 and swing around the board game of life again. It's a one shot journey. Sometimes you win the most and sometimes it's errrh– too many losses to contend with. But the fact is, this is life. The one shot living that can't be erased or vacuumed away.

Make room for mistakes
Open up to face reality
Be the bigger person to say "I'm sorry. I don't know it all."
Find a reason to smile every single day.
Sneak in some chocolate
Then get some growing room-- Growth to be a better you.

Ultimately, we must remember– "I am a work in progress. God is not finished with me yet."

No matter the climb or struggle within, trust God with every heavy situation and circumstance. He is still the God of catching cares. His glove is never frayed or broken.

Stay encouraged in the heavy– and move Forward
Real Ministry: VeeVeca http://www.VerbalConquest.net

My favorite song: Blame it on Me-Chrisette Michele

2009-07-20T07:51:00.000-07:00

The Herald: Living with children

2009-07-16T08:34:00.001-07:00

The Herald HeraldOnline.com - Living with Children
By JOHN ROSEMOND - McClatchy Newspapers

Q: You've often said that parents should not be "involved" with their children, but rather should establish a clear boundary in the parent-child relationship. I agree in principle, but as a homeschooling mom, I have no choice but to be highly involved with my kids. Can you help me resolve this conflict?

A: In relationships, boundaries are essential to respect. One of the stumbling blocks in contemporary parenting culture is the general lack of a clear boundary between parent and child. The symptoms include the so-called "family bed," married couples who are more involved with their children than they are with one another (in terms of attention paid to, time spent with, interest shown in, and so on), and families that are organized around children's activities. The underlying problem is that today's parents are more concerned about being liked than respected by their kids.

This modern social fashion is by no means confined to the parent-child relationship. The need to be liked by children has infected the teaching profession (in some school systems, for example, students actually rate teachers on "likeability"), and manifests itself more generally in such imprudent things as adults wanting children - even very young children - to call them by their first names.

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DISCUSSION with VeeVeca:

Like vs. Respect. The writer of the article said, "The underlying problem is that today's parents are more concerned about being liked than respected by their kids." Is it possible to have both? Or am I just fooling myself?

For me, I do care if the children like me. However, I won't go out of my way to be liked. Meaning, if I have to discipline roughly I will because I am responsible for their lives. And because I am fully founded in the stand that kids belong to God first and then to parents second, they must adhere to the rules of the parent (who hopefully is listening to God). There is a thin line of befriending your children. Respect absolutely must be expected. But respect goes both ways-- from parents to kids, from kids to parents... ultimately all to God.

Real Ministry with VeeVeca

2009-07-15T06:59:00.000-07:00

Are you looking in the right spot?

Scripture in View: [Hebrews 12:1-3]

What are you looking at? The problem. The drama. What is and what isn’t. Are you constantly looking through the woulda/shoulda glasses and coming up short on the reward of your life’s reality. If _________ was ___________ I would be____________. If this is where you are looking, you are clearly looking in the wrong place.

Point 1: Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses– Everybody’s got drama. You are not the only one. Stop being the penny with the hole in it.

Point 2: let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us– Put the smack down on garbage and sin in your own life. If you are violating your temple (your body), detox your lifestyle. Check your closest before somebody brings you out of the closet. You yourself already know what your problem is. If you are lying, stop lying. If you are a messy, stop being messy. If you are promiscuous (whoring), stop giving up your goods. Nobody has to out you but you! Just get out of it and...

Point 3: and let us run with patience the race that is set before us,– You are somebody. God never created a mistake. Purpose brought you, and you should run with patience (the margin to of a stride) to live to be your best self. It’s like a marathon, at some points you can run fast to build up your lead. But at other times, the pace is slower. Not because you can’t run, but moreso the slow down is necessary because the distance is further and you must slow down to gain the momentum to finish the race. But how do you get there?

Point 4: Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; The only way to cross the finish line is the same way into and out of the world, looking to Jesus. What does that mean? Jesus who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God. For consider him that endured such contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds.

Point 5: In whatever you go through, whatever surfaces, hurdles to leap, pains to endure– look to Lord for the strength, power, refuge, and help to get through it. Simply pray. "Lord I am in ___ and I don’t know what to do. Please help me. You are my strength and hope. Amen."

No matter the climb or struggle within, trust God with every heavy situation and circumstance. He is still the God of catching cares. His glove is never frayed or broken.

Stay encouraged in the heavy– and move Forward
Real Ministry: VeeVeca http://www.verbalconquest.net/

Fad Cleanses and Fasts Aren't Healthy for Weight Loss - ABC News

2009-07-13T07:59:00.001-07:00

Fad Cleanses and Fasts Aren't Healthy for Weight Loss - ABC News

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Life Lesson froma a card game

2009-07-10T07:47:00.000-07:00

Uneventful turns eventful. Playing cards with my family is fun, but I didn’t expect God to show up just like that.

During the first hand of 5000, I only got 10 points. My sister, daughter, and son had several hundred points. We laughed and poked fun at each other. My daughter said, "I hate losing alone. Now, if I am on a team and we lose together it’s okay because we lost as a team– but I can’t lose alone." I’d heard her say that before. I smiled as my sister wrote down the scores, 525, 480, 435, and 10.

I said, "Sometimes life comes and it looks like everybody else is getting ahead and you are stuck behind. But the key is to not look at what others have or don't have. Where you are is just a moment of position. The tides will turn-- they always turn."

The next hand was dealt. Game faces were pronounced in detail across the table. Within minutes, my son won the hand and cooped the remaining points in everybody's hand. My sister and daughter had several hundred points added to their score. Me on the other end earned no added points at all. The scores was tallied and I was still at 10, while the others were bursting the seams at over 1000. My daughter said, "Oh wee, I would be so mad about that."

I smiled and winked my eye. "Just because opportunity comes doesn't mean it's your turn to win. But the key is to hang in there anyway. Play the hand you are dealt to the best of your ability. Stay positive. Laugh some more and keep on moving."

By the end of the game, guess who ended up the winner? Me. I ended the game saying, "I won because of meager beginnings." And what a phenomenal lesson a simple card game gave.....No matter the climb or struggle within, trust God with every heavy situation and circumstance. He is still the God of catching cares. His glove is never frayed or broken. Stay encouraged in the heavy– and move Forward

Real Ministry: VeeVeca www.verbalconquest.net

Steve Harvey Mentoring Wrap up-Day 4

2009-07-07T10:20:00.000-07:00

The weekend was phenomenal. Lives were changed. "My hope is that these boys left the ranch so inspired that they, in turn, will set the example for other young men in their neighborhoods," Harvey said. "The weekend was a complete success, and I appreciate everyone who contributed to making it happen."

Steve Harvey Mentoring-- Day 2

2009-07-07T08:12:00.000-07:00

Day 2-- Friday, June 19, 2009

The first day the campers are on the ranch without their parents. The day began with food, prayer, and fun.

The paint ball battle really got their attention, as Steve Harvey along with a band of celebrities, athletes, mentors and ministors guided the young men to better steps for their living.

What goes with talking, how about a relaxing time on the lake with a fishing professional.

The boys were also given hair cuts.

Dorian "Charlotte" Fade Barbershop Kyle "Philly"

Steve Harvey-Flight School

2009-07-06T13:38:00.000-07:00

Airline and Harvey Unveil Online Tribute Chronicling Weekend

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fkkQQ3KPfW0

Fort Worth, TX (BlackNews.com) - One hundred boys from around the country got perhaps their first look at what it takes to be a pilot -- and some life-changing advice on how to make their own dreams come true -- from entertainer Steve Harvey, who was hosted by American Airlines over Father's Day weekend.

The boys attended the first-ever Steve Harvey Mentoring Weekend this past weekend at his Dallas ranch. The actor, comedian and best-selling author created the mentoring weekend to support boys ages 13-18 who are being raised without fathers in their homes. During the camp, they visited the C.R.P. Future Pilots Flight School, which is sponsored by the airline. The school, based at Executive Airport in Dallas, teaches at-risk children in the Dallas and Tarrant county school systems to become pilots and aircraft mechanics.

Harvey also called on celebrity friends, business leaders, and other corporate sponsors to lead seminars on topics that included getting in and staying in college, making the best impression and other areas of self-development.

"My hope is that these boys left the ranch so inspired that they, in turn, will set the example for other young men in their neighborhoods," Harvey said. "The weekend was a complete success, and I appreciate everyone who contributed to making it happen."

Steve Harvey Mentoring 09-Good Morning America

2009-06-29T11:01:00.001-07:00

Watch the Mentoring Weekend through the cameras of Good Morning America

Father's Day With Steve Harvey

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My son, Dorian, age 16 was one of the 100 young men honored to be a participant of the inaugural Steve Harvey Mentoring Weekend (Father's Day weekend, to be exact). There were 4000 submissions and only 100 chosen. I was ecstactic and he was in awe. The event was life changing. Please enjoy this clip, as it only shows a snapshot of the miracle of changing lives. My thanks to God and to Mr. Harvey.

Pressure to Over Eat

2009-06-15T07:10:00.000-07:00

Do you over eat to compensate for pain, guilt, lonliness or frustration? Millions do. But what happens at the end of the binge, added guilt. Be careful when you are confronting difficult situations. Food... ie overeating of food is not your friend.

Take a different route!

Go crazy on the ellipitcal
Dance wild and hard to a fast beat tune.
Walk it out-- on the tread mill
Serve some justice pumping some weights
Really angry, jump rope
Drink plenty of water
Snack on Green (sugar snap peas)

Peas belong to the vegetable family known as legumes whose plants produce pods with enclosed seeds. Legumes are protein-rich, low fat, nutritional additions to almost any meal, and peas are certainly no exception. In fact only lima beans are a better vegetable source of protein than peas. To me, there is nothing better than fresh peas stripped from their pods, boiled quickly and then tossed with some sweet butter and salt; they are sweet, tender and delicious, and so very nutritious.

REAL Ministry -Help my unbelief

2009-06-09T07:42:00.000-07:00

REAL Ministry with VeeVeca
"Help my unbelief"

This morning I walked out to the car and noticed my parents big yard full of green well maintained grass. Each stem seemed perfect in its own regard. In my spirit I heard, "I know the thoughts I think towards you are good and not evil. I will give you a good and expected end."

I replied, "I wish I could see and live out what you see right now. Because most of the time, I feel overwhelmed to circumstance. Much clearer I heard it precisely. "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end." [Jeremiah 29:11]

As I lifted my size Extra into the truck, I exhaled. "Lord have mercy." If only I could trust God more than I see the issues in my life! Then I cried, "Help my unbelief." In the bible Mark 9, there was a man who had a son that had a "dumb spirit". The father took the son to the disciples for healing. They couldn’t heal him. The father went to Jesus and Jesus spoke to the man, "How long as he been like this?" The man said, "Since he was a child." Jesus said to him, "If thou canst believe, all things are possible to him that believeth. And straightway the father of the child cried out, and said with tears, Lord, I believe; help thou mine unbelief." [Mark 9:23-24]

When in doubt, look at your belief. Are you concrete in the theory that change can happen? Or have you been so disappointed that all efforts look like failure? Believe it or not, "Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the LORD delivereth him out of them all." [Psalms 34:19]

It’s hard to hold on to a rope that is unraveling. But if God is on the other end of your rope, fall or swing, you will survive. "Unless the LORD had been my help, my soul had almost dwelt in silence." [Psalms 94:17] Ask God today to help your unbelief and to swing you his way. Be encouraged!

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Book Review: Metamorphosis by DJ McLauren

2009-06-04T11:30:00.001-07:00

Oh snap! DJ McLaurin has did it again. Metamorphosis happens not only within the pages but inside of your own heart and mind. She puts the "gotcha" in action. The characters– Michael struggles with love and Chachi fights for love. The confrontations of love can be a hit or miss. But it is wonderful watching the contenders stand up for the fight of their lives, with villains plotting to snatch the next breath. It's raw footage seeing who will be the last one standing. Metamorphosis is a beautifully written story with sexual orientation hanging in the balance of thought. It has been Kissed by Verbal Conquest.

Faithful in "I don't know"

2009-06-02T06:08:00.000-07:00

Faithful in "I don’t know"

Remember the toy Jack in the Box. After the knob is turned, Jack springs out in full blast. His face is happy. His arms are stretched out in expectancy.

How many times do you feel like Jack in the Box waiting to emerge from the hold? It seems nobody is turning the knob to release you, not even God. What do you do?

You believe that eventually somebody will turn the devicel to release you. But after awhile, the human cramped up side of you, eventually loose hope. " I am squeezed up, tied up, frustrated and disgusted. I am stuck and it looks like I’m never coming out of this thing."

Yeah, I’ve said it too. Everybody has at some point in their lives. And if they haven’t, just keep living. The chance will come.

While the pressure to pop out is on you and you just "don’t know" when change will come, trust the changer. God sees all and he knows exactly where you are. And if he needs to pop you out from the bottom out or even at the sides, he knows– just how do you.
VeeVeca– Real Ministry

God Insurance-Do you have it?

2009-05-29T08:06:00.000-07:00

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God Insurance– Do you have it?

Worried about your teenager? Your bills? The drama that seems to show up even when there is no tv on the tube? Are you thinking, "How is it always me in the heat of the fire with no source of fight left."

Are you Cried out? Tired out? Many people can wave a hand and testify to the same struggle. So what do you do now? Get some God Insurance and turn the (its) in your life over to the Almighty God. He is the only one that can work you out and it out at the same time.

3 Point Turn

Instead of worrying about your drama, go out and do a good deed for somebody else. Say a kind word, Smile to somebody, pick up somebody else’s newspaper in the yard and take it to their door. Be gentle with someone. Listen to somebody else’s problem. Buy somebody a gift card. Find your way to give of yourself to help someone else in need. Be the blessing you need.
Keep company with God. He’s your agent. Tell him like it is and trust that he knows even the fine lines to your policy. Remember he is God. He will do whatever needs to be done: He'll validate your life in the clear light of day and stamp you with approval at high noon.
Stay in check. Don’t let your good foot slip on your left sided thought. The eyes of the LORD are upon the righteous, and his ears are open unto their cry. [Psalms 34:15] Is anyone crying for help? God is listening, ready to rescue you. If your heart is broken, you'll find God right there; if you're kicked in the gut, he'll help you catch your breath. Disciples so often get into trouble; still, God is there every time. He's your bodyguard, shielding every bone; not even a finger gets broken. [Psalm 37:17-The Message Translation]

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What I am reading, NOW...5/09

2009-05-21T06:16:00.000-07:00

METAMORPHOSIS a novel by D.J. McLaurin http://www.djmclaurin.com/

Grieving the loss of his mother and abandonment by the love of his young life, Michael finds solace in the arms of his good friend, Illian-- a party girl and substance abuser. He soon finds that Illian's dope is just the thing he needs to forget his lover, Chachi, and tolerate the constant badgering from his dead mother's ghost.

But Joe, Michael's billionaire father, along with Chachi, refuses to give up on Micael and hauls him unceremoniously into unconventional rehab.

In the tough yet tender care of Sunny Palmer, the hardcore head of the Progressive Rehabilitation Treatment Center, Michael finds the path to recovery and begins a transformation that brings both pain and confustion. A man now, he's anxious to reunite with his loved ones and ready to deal with his over-bearing father, his fiery ex-lover and Renee, Chachi's vemon spitting ex-girlfriend, whose hatred and jealousy borders on insanity.

But not much has ever come easy to Michael, and as he journeys into adult-hood, the secrets he uncovers about himself eclipses every challnge he expected to face. his life is rapidly changing, and he may not be strong enough to grapple with his metamorphoses while beeating back the deomons that continue to hound his heels.

It might be that in the love he's running from lies his only hope of weather his storm.

Who is the Dummy Now?

2009-05-21T06:13:00.000-07:00

Scripture in View: A man's pride shall bring him low: but honour shall uphold the humble in spirit. [Proverbs 29:23]

Think you know so much!

A dumb person knows more than you? How is that so? He/she knows their world, through their own experiences and hands-on applications. They know the life and the style. Before you act out in what you think you know, consider this fact. "You don’t know it all."

As educated and knowledgeable as you are, you have limitations. You know your world and the things around you. Possibly, you may even have the wisdom to out think, assume and presume much. But not standing in the shoes of the opposing force, puts you on the effigy side of not fully existing in life through their eyes, their extremes.

To be truly smart is to be humbled to learn as you grow.

Real Ministry– Verbal Conquest

The devil is knocking but you don't have to answer

2009-05-13T07:01:00.000-07:00

The D.E.V.I.L. is knocking, but you don't have to answer. Don't open the door to trachery and mess.

No matter how good it looks, feels and sounds, the end reads Demonic Evil Vices In Life= DEVIL.

Remember when Jesus had just been baptised by John the Baptist, he was claimed by God and esteemed as God's son in whom God was well pleased with. Imagine the great feeling knowing that God is well pleased with you. Then immediately, God sent him into the wilderness to be tested.

Isn't it ironic to be at the height of happy and tossed to the door of drama. Jesus did it and so shall we? When the devil came knocking, Jesus gave the word. The devil didn't go away right then, he kept right on knocking. Jesus gave the word. That's the order of our stand today. When Demonic Evil Vices In Life comes knocking, give God's word and keep reaching for the prize.

Verbal Conquest-- Real Ministry

Size Me

2009-05-06T06:55:00.000-07:00

I am a power alone but with all my size 20ish, I am a force to be reckoned with. More than anything I have learned to love Size ME. Funny, I had to learn to do that. Consider it strange but thin women do it too.

It’s not always about the weight. It’s about identity and personal satisfaction in your own image. "Lord help me be okay in my own skin." I prayed that prayer a million times until I had to deal with a disorder called degenerative joint disease. Then I had less time to worry about weight due to the pain in my lower back. Prayer changes things, just not as you expect. ha ha ha

As women we have been given such a raw deal in society to look Size Perfect at all times. We are to gain 20+ lbs have big healthy babies and bounce back immediately to Size Superstar. Heck to the Narrah.

Marilyn Monroe was a true size 14– hello world- Thick is real size women. Thank you very much.

Push comes to Shove -Super Kissed

2009-05-06T05:58:00.000-07:00

This book is the chi ching from that tv cop show. It has been Super Kissed by me. The story is compelling and moves with fluid. The characters were real. GP had it hard living in a group home. Being told "you ain't nothing" so often can make you believe just that. But add a wife, two kids, and a gangster lesbian best friend to the pot. Will it be pot luck or just bad heat. "Fire and gun poweder don't sleep together." Oasis pitched a homerun piecing this story together with heartbeat thrills that left me with my mouth wide open. This book is a definite go-getter.

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Weight Wait ...Whatever

2009-04-30T07:18:00.000-07:00

Last night I was watching Entertainment Tonight. They aired a snippet of Oprah’s show featuring Kristie Alley. My stomach knotted up.

Kristi Alley is beautiful lady. Years ago, she gained weight and became a spokesman for Jenny Craig. She lost 75 lbs two years ago and appeared on Oprah in a two piece swim suit. What a major accomplishment.

Entertainment Tonight did an update how she has gained the weight back. The full story will be on Oprah today.

As I watched them talk about Kristi, I thought about myself. I use to hate my weight struggle and I fought soberly to win the badge over bulge. Don’t get it twisted, I was never thin. The smallest I have ever been was a size 16, which took the marine core the army and airforce and navy to stay at.

Name it I dang near did it in the struggle to be thin enough. I did Akins for 8 long months. My hair thinned out and I was dumb as a potato. My brain became a frig’n sponge absorbing nothing. Ha ha. Finally, I gave that up and went on to another billion dollar fight with fat.

I eventually hurt my back during aerobics and a zumba dance class. Doctors diagnosed me (after Xrays and wretched mri and too many dang insurance co-pays) with degenerative joint disease. The pain was relentless and unending.

That year during Christmas, I went to get gifts. As soon as we got into the store, pain crippled me. I was so embarrassed standing in the middle of the store in tears. My sons helped me to the car. My oldest wasn’t much taller than me at the time. I was so lost. Couldn’t exercise. Couldn’t do nothing to battle my bulge other than eat right.

Humph, my body is a pro at weight loss attack. It girts down and buckles up against any attempt to take away fat cells. It loves the extra like net's and flys love watermelon on a hot summer day. It's a heavy weight contender for sure.

I don’t love the extra, but I’ve learned to like me the way I am-que sara sara. I pray to be healty and to make better choices about food, exercises and the whole gambit. I am too broke to spend any more money on fake pills, diet scams and crap that won't work, never can work, will only work on models in pictures that were already thin and marketers found a fat girl that could sorta look like her after shedding a million pounds. Whatever. I the end, life is too short for burdens .

(PS—During National Novel Writing Month 08, I began writing a book regarding these very issues. Soon to Come )

What I am reading, NOW...4/29/09

2009-04-29T07:24:00.000-07:00

I Matter Article by Iris Celeste

2009-04-28T10:38:00.000-07:00

As a Woman Thinketh article of the week...I Matter!

This incredible article has liberated me. Given me wind beneath my feet, even though my knees may be shaking, I feel different after reading those words.

As a little girl, I thought about when I grow up, I will be this and that. Funny, I grew up and did become this but what about that. Shouldn't that exist also?

Iris Celeste has resuscitated my existence. I need to do that thing too. Why? Because I matter. Click here to read the article in detail. You'll be glad you did. http://www.freewebs.com/btpmagazine/asawomanthinketh.htm

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Am I fat?

2009-04-27T09:44:00.000-07:00

Have you bought a new outfit? Did you pull it up with ease?

When you checked your appearance in the mirror, did you get queasy facing the fat stranger looking back at you? If so, don't bother asking anybody the question that you already know. Am I too fat?

Of course you are fat? Your body is under seize of burgers, fries, milk shakes, chocolates, and no exercise. Face it, another dress size or belt buckle was in that last bite. Now you got to face habits and choices. Not too pretty, huh.

There is no magic fix. But you can change your outlook. The same bites that put on the extra pounds are the same bites (with different foods) that will reduce your weight.

Make a plan to be diffent. Exterminate your house of Heavy weight food that caused you to be fat. You must replace those items with healthier choices- veggies/fruits. Then make a plan to exercise-something is better than nothing three times a week. Challenge yourself to walk a mile. Then challenge yourself to do 100 situps a day. Make it fun.

Change your Thoughts/changes your mind!

Verbal Conquest

Shelia Goss » Sister Soldiers Packing Party

2009-04-24T06:09:00.000-07:00

Shelia Goss » Sister Soldiers Packing Party

The Price of a Lash

2009-04-23T06:27:00.001-07:00

Is it beauty or vainity?

Nice flirty lashes are gorgeous. Paying $20 or more to keep them looking fierce can become a line item to every diva's budget.

So why do we do it? We want to be fierce and fabulous on every stage. But what is it costing in the end....

After the first two weeks of wearing fake lashes, I had them touched up. Then a week later they were re-applied at the salon. Ouch. The technician pulled and yanked harder than pulling teeth. I didn't realize that my own lashes were coming out too. Oh boy! Take a look to the right at the aftermath. My once seemingly okay lashes are now bald (not totally). So what do I do now?

Do I muse back into time waiting for my own lashes to grow back. Or, do I run forward to the eye lash mercenaries to redeem my eyes with some fake ones again? Wozy Woe-- the price of a lash just went up for me.

Verbal Conquest-The price of glam

Day Five-The Shack (finished)

2009-04-21T20:39:00.000-07:00

The Shack is a good read. It is a journey of hardship and spirit. Mackenzie Phillps didn't have the best childhood, like so many. But he took the lumps of hard luck and hardness and lived. Yet somewhere deep down in the recesses of his being, pain filtered through the drawers of his mind and there was no room for anything else. Tragedy happens and life gives Mackenzie a choice-- live in grief or face the pain. But between the destiny of choice, there is God. Is the the blame for life calamities? Or is he help? Mackenzie Philips is an everyday man hit one time too many with the bat of life. But he gets to swing and life is hit hard. Questions from forgiveness to indepence to trust comes to view. Mackenzie expresses true emotion of a father, a man, a human being seeking relief. Reading this book has renewed me and given me a greater outlook.

5 Thumps up

Verbal Conquest

Accept Your Season

2009-04-21T05:14:00.000-07:00

Real Ministry with VeeVeca

Accept Your Season

We have heard the scriptures, there is a time and a season for all things. But why is it not sticking to the matter in our heads? Do we think that somehow some way we can be exempt from the hard seasons–

1TO EVERYTHING there is a season, and a time for every matter or purpose under heaven:
2 time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to pluck up what is planted
3A time to kill and a time to heal, a time to break down and a time to build up,
4A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance,
5A time to cast away stones and a time to gather stones together, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
6A time to get and a time to lose, a time to keep and a time to cast away,
7A time to rend and a time to sew, a time to keep silence and a time to speak
8A time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace. [Ecclesiastes 3:1-8]
Is it true that even I, with my bible reading, bible talking, trying to live right self will still have to experience hard times of trouble?

Yes. I am sorry if that disappoints you. But think about this: Without lessons, there is no knowledge. Without test, there is no application. Without labor, there is no growth. Even you, must grow. No test. No testimony.

Whatever the season you find yourself in, seek to find this question– God is my _________. As this answer is revealed to you, peace will come and you will be stronger for the test and the season. And then finally you can declare, "I know that whatever God does, it endures forever; nothing can be added to it nor anything taken from it. And God does it so that men will [reverently] fear Him [revere and worship Him, knowing that He is" [Ecclesiastes 3:14]

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Day 4-The Shaft

2009-04-17T05:44:00.000-07:00

The Shack Day 4-- What if I wasn't afraid to really tell the truth, would I still be honest enough or even brave enough to do so? God showed Mack a real truth about himself. He was hiding in his own lies pretenting to be looking out for someone else. Lord have mercy. I think I do it too. Why? Because like Mack, I don't like facing the monster called emotions. Those dasdardly things can be too much. For me, sometimes it can cause me to take to the bed. Chyle pleaze, taking to the bed is serious. It is what I have called my phase of depression when I can't talk, eat, or do anything else but lay in the comfort of a pillow and covers pulled up to my neck. I might look crazy, but trust I am in the arms of the Lord. Cuz where else can I go? I've tried to handle it and it didn't get me anywhere. So taking to the bed is essentially laying in the arms of the Lord.

I am just a few pages shy of being finished, but I am savoring every moment to share my experience. I am enjoying my reviews.

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The Shack-day 3

2009-04-16T05:26:00.000-07:00

The Shack -day 3

I am sitting in the suv waiting on my son who is at track practice. This book is more than a spiritual encounter. It is thought provoking and challenging. Today, I found great interest in God's thoughts about relationships. Take a look... "Relationships are never about power, and one way to avoid the will to hold power over another is to choose to limit oneself-- to serve." Wow. As children of God, we need to learn this lesson.

Help us Lord to invoke perfect love as you made it to be, not comprised of what we think or what we've preceived it to be. Let us will to be servants to love. Teach us, God, to love without power trips or strong holds. Amen.

Verbal Conquest-Real Ministry

Day 2-The Shack

2009-04-14T07:03:00.000-07:00

Day 2-The Shack

I am deeply moved. Mack is face to face with God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. They have human character. They laugh, joke, and play around. Not quite the picture human-kind would expect of the Trinity. Mack finds himself intrigued ..."broken humans center their lives around things that seem good to them but will neither fill them nor free them...."

To be continued--

Peek-a-boo

2009-04-14T05:57:00.000-07:00

Exhortation: Peek-a-boo

Stop playing games with life. What if this was your last week on earth? What would matter and what would not?

Take a second and search for true happiness and not surface satisfaction. Stop playing peek-a-boo with affections that do not return the semblance. Life is a drawing board. Playing peek-a-boo will not create a work of art. It plays the same game with the same expected results.

Stand up and pitch your confidence high. You have life to live.

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I am reading, The Shack.. end of day 1

2009-04-10T05:35:00.000-07:00

The Shack by WM . Paul Young

The end of day one... I was very emotional as you can see. This book is making me look at my own life, my own relationship with God. Even so, I am learning that the worst place to be can be the best place to find God. "I collect tears." That blew me away. I photographed my emotions to share the impact this book has. He/she (God neither male or female), reveals their identity within the pages that Mackenzie Philips is blown away-- me too. What we think of God can be totally conformed by concepts of a religion and not reality, as Mack learns. It's time to look beyond scripted verses of an average God to see the life, light, of a smarter than human God. More to come

VeeVeca Lavoira

What I am reading, NOW...

2009-04-09T11:18:00.000-07:00

The Shack by WM. Paul Young

I'm not even half way through this book and already it has me glued to its pages. Have you ever been so mad that you feel deranged? Try adding death of a child to it. Mackenzie Phillips is feeling it somekind of bad. Is there even a God and if so, where?......... to be continued...

2009-04-06T07:19:00.000-07:00

Fill in the Blank

If I had __________ I would be alright. How would you fill in the blanks? Dreams can be like reaching for the stars or fishing for sunken treasure . It’s tedious at best. Only the desperate and unwilling will get the stars and treasure. What can you do to fill in your blanks today?

Thank you Lord for this day. Thank you for your presence in my life. Help me to walk towards my dreams. My hands are blessed. I am your tool in today’s world. Allow me meet destiny in full sobriety talking the right talk and walking the right walk. Give me creativity of heaven and wisdom of Solomon. Let me be a daily bread to the Kingdom of God in all that I do, Amen.

Verbal Conquest [Real Ministry]

The Get Back

2009-03-30T05:51:00.001-07:00

When you look in the mirror are you full of joy or empty of failed tries of trying to get back into shape? You stare into the image. A mean stomach laughs at you through your nice clothes. Are you like so many saying, "Whose body is this? And do I have to wake up every single day in it?"

What’s up with the hips? The dips in the thighs? Once upon a time, that stomach was rock hard and assumed to live happily ever after. A quick turn in the mirror and you see... back breast, love handles arranged like fresh biscuits, on the area once laid iron board flat.

Unaware to public eye, deep down in the fat chambers below, a thinner chiseled you exists. A plan to fight against the Fat Enemy has begun. It starts out with starvation and then with hard core relentless exercise.

The first five minutes of the walk is a breeze. "I got this. No biggie." Ten minutes pass. A burn surges up your legs. The burn feels like a thousand ants biting into your legs. Intense itching begins. "Do I stop to scratch or ignore it and go on?"
Isn’t it just like life. Just when you are trying to do a good thing, issues come up to make you question your actions. Life starts out on a easy keel but the very next step can be tumultuous.

On my walk into work, I had many thoughts along with hoping that the two mile walk would knock the Fat Enemy out of my ball park. But God reminded me of something else. My motto for 2009– walk with the heavy and keep on moving.
No matter the climb or struggle within, trust God with every heavy situation and circumstance. He is still the God of catching cares. His glove is never broken.

Stay encouraged in the heavy– and move Forward
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My Kind of Serenity

2009-03-24T06:16:00.000-07:00

My Kind of Serenity
"God grant me the SERENITY to ACCEPT the things I cannot CHANGE
COURAGE to CHANGE
the things I can
and WISDOM to know the DIFFERENCE!"
When I can’t see the forest from the trees
I fall... Good God Almighty to my knees
to you I call
It’s DEEP dooown in my soul
that your face I long to hold
that gives me strength when times get so hard and rough
on the days, when I feel no ways tough
when SERENITY ~seem farthest away
ACCEPTANCE so far at bay
that I can’t see the FOREST FROM THE TREES
Good God Almighty "IS THIS INSECURITY
that makes me feel without Courage...hmmmm
Wisdom and my my my YOUR KIND OF STRENGTH
when I’ve gone the distance and treaded the length
when my legs can’t bend
and prayers TOO blocked to be sent
somehow .. Someway
If you have to REACH WAY DOWN
I know you will be found
walking with me in the DAYS OF DARKNESS
and SHADOWS OF DEATH
when I don’t have nothing left
I realize then~~~ that I have it ALL
and it’s~ YOU~ that I call
when I can’t see the Forest from the TREES
as yet again, I CRAWL onto my knees
For the SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS...

I CANNOT CHANGE
COURAGE... TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN
and to finally have the WISDOM to know the Difference
Thank you my kind of ... SERENITY.
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Closed hand Tight Fist

2009-03-23T10:10:00.001-07:00

What’s harder-holding on or letting go? Sometimes both sides can be deliberately hard to choose. So what do you do when you don’t know what to do? Hold on to the sides of the ride because it may go fast and then again it may go slow. Either way, hold on.
Circumstances of life can often bring about many emotions. During the swing of feeling the ride of ups and downs, it becomes difficult to make conscious decisions. Therefore, never make a decision in desperation. Do what you can do?
/Positive Attitude
/Clean Heart
/Free Mind
/Active Forgiveness
/Prayer
"Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me." [Psalms 51:10]
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Crazy in Life

2009-03-18T07:21:00.000-07:00

At any second, I am going to lose my mind. " In today's reality so many are speaking the same language. "If one more negative thing happens, I will go bezerk." The economy is bad. Relationships can rock like the legs of a rocking chair. And just when it seems like too much is too much, the kids show out in behavior or crude individual expression. Who can handle all of this?

What's the answer? Take a deep breath. Wave your arms. Shake your bootie. God has not given you an insane mind. Remember that. Voice it as often as necessary. "For God hath not given me the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind." [2 Timothy 1:7 KJV]
Take flight and possess your world one breath one wave one shake at a time.

Verbal Conquest [Real Ministry]

Choice: Lover or Child

2009-03-17T09:14:00.000-07:00

Is it possible to choose your child over your spouse? Spouse over your child? It's been said everyday, "I wouldn't chose them over them." But the reality is, sometimes even you choose sides.

Example 1

The school calls. Your daughter is caught having sex in the boy's bathroom. You and your husband pick her up from school. At home, your husband/her father, beats her to a pulp. She runs out the door to run away. Do you run after her or to your husband?

Example 2
Wife claims step son is eating all of the food in the house. Constantly, she complains there is never enough groceries. She purposely hides food. When step son comes home part time job, there is no bread. He goes off on on step mom. Husband comes home from work. Who does he side with?

Example 3
Son and daughter claim no spiritual alliance. Father is okay. Mother is upset. Daughter dies blond hair black and begins wearing all black. Son is gay. Father tears off at son. Who does the mother console?

The reality is life is different for so many. Before you are quick to determine what you would never do, watch out you feet may be in like shoes.

I see

2009-03-16T06:34:00.000-07:00

Musing Monday...

I SEE--
Through my little brown eye
I see
the hope of tomorrow
that today doesn't bring
as tears come
and tears go
looking beyond the pain
I s t r a i n
to see
God
vision obscurred
reality too hard
but I try
through my little brown eye
to see faith
even the size of a mustard seed
when all I have is
Hope

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What is a Friend

2009-02-18T08:33:00.000-08:00

What is a friend?

What does it mean to be a friend? Or even have a friend? Do you show up like a car at a gas station ready to fuel up for the long ride. Or do you get enough for the moment?

Bible Benefits: A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother. [Proverbs 18:24]

Life Help: "Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken." [Ecclesiastes 4:9-12]

I got Friends... I got friends for the long distance road trip called life. If I stumble if I fall, thank God I got friends. In the wee hours of the morning, the phones may ring. So what if my body is droopy and tired. Friendship is calling. We respond like Firefighter's in the middle of the night. It's our job to extinguish all flames of hurt. We are sworn to protect and serve. Get out of the way, Friendship is our duty. We police emotions and arrest crimes of despair. Don't mess up-- Friendship is always there! Verbal conquest © 2009 all rights reserved